I Don’t Get You

51uqjmqR+eL._SX331_BO1,204,203,200_Book Review: I Don’t Get You, A Guide to Healthy Conversations

Author: Sherry Graf

Review by Grace Olson

The Story

Taken from Amazon’s description of I Don’t Get You:

Relationships can be confusing, and communication is a huge part of that confusion. I Don’t Get You aims to be a practical, accessible resource that helps readers navigate opposite-sex communication with intentionality.

This booklet explores how God designed our hearts and the variations between men and women. Men and women relate, attach, and express themselves differently. Even what we think and feel during a shared conversation may be misunderstood.

The 5 Categories of Conversation introduced in this booklet give practical and easy-to-apply guidelines for interaction. The material guides us to fulfilling relationships that respect emotional boundaries and promote healthy interactions. I Don’t Get You equips men to protect their own hearts and the hearts of women around them. It also reveals how we can intentionally pursue the heart of one special person. Women will learn to recognize the invisible emotional ties that easily form and to guard their hearts from uncommitted emotional intimacy.


            This is quite possibly the best book I have ever read on emotional purity in relationships with all people. I had expected the book to be bigger than it was, but really it’s a booklet. I Don’t Get You is only 66 pages long, but it is so packed full of practical insight and advice, that you would think it’s a much bigger book. I have already recommended this book to many of my friends, because I believe it really has some great things to say that are truth.

The booklet talks about the heart of healthy conversations, which is really a matter of the heart. How we must guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23) and how we can get involved in defrauding relationships. Next Sherry considers how to have healthy conversations and the 5 categories of conversations that bring people progressively closer. Dependency is also briefly discussed, those emotion-draining relationships with people of the same sex that can be difficult to deal with. Emotional purity in dating and in marriage are discussed individually and had a lot of great pointers and guidelines to consider. Finally, Sherry talks about pursuing emotional purity together. The book contains good, thought-provoking discussion questions that go deep and keep the reader from just brushing past.

About the Author

Sherry and her husband, Jeff, enjoy teaching about healthy conversations and emotional purity around the country. She loves helping others discover how to better “get” one another and enjoy deep and thriving relationships. To contact her, you can connect with her on Facebook or via email.

I was given a review copy of I Don’t Get You from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. I received no monetary compensation for my review. The opinions expressed are my own.

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